Managing ANger
Anger is a natural emotion that everyone experiences from time to time.
Experts say everyone feels anger. It's a natural emotion that guards against wrongs. Yet, poorly managed anger can lead to harmful actions. These actions harm oneself or others. Also, uncontrolled anger can harm emotional health. It can also create new problems.
If you find yourself doing these sorts of things, it might be a sign that you need some support:
- Physically hurting other people (hitting people)
- Verbally hurting people (shouting at people)
- Breaking, smashing or throwing things
- Losing control of how you react
- Spending time with people who you get into trouble with
- Constantly ending relationships / friendships
- Often getting in trouble at school or work
Start by considering these top tips:
- Think before you speak/ react to something...
- Once you're calm, express how you’re feeling/ how something made you feel…
- Remove yourself from the situation...
- Get some exercise/ do some stretching...
- Take time out and focus on your breathing for ten minutes…
- Identify possible solutions…
- Don't hold a grudge, be ready to talk something through and move forward…
How does anger affect your body? (For children and young people)
- Knots in your stomach
- Clenching your hands or jaw
- Feeling clammy or flushed
- Breathing faster
- Headaches
- Pacing or needing to walk around
- “Seeing red”
- Having trouble concentrating
- Pounding heart
- Tensing your shoulders
When you start getting upset about something, take a moment to think about the situation.
Ask yourself:
- How important is it in the grand scheme of things?
- Is it really worth getting angry about it?
- Is it worth ruining the rest of my day?
- Is my response appropriate to the situation?
- Is there anything I can do about it?
- Is taking action worth my time?
“Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.” ― Buddha
More places you can get support
Compass Wakefield
Helps children, young people and families facing low mood, friendship problems, bullying, online bullying or feeling angry, lonely or sad before things get worse. Text BUZZ to 85258 for text messaging support, call 01924 665 093 or send off a referral form
Barnardos
Supports vulnerable children and young people through the vital front-line services addressing their health, wellbeing and safety needs.
