Manage Your Feelings

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Manage Your Feelings

It’s definitely NOT easy being a teenager! Sometimes it’s tough to avoid feeling stressed, and pressure can build up in many areas of life (socially, in school/college, at home and when making big life decisions).

Some of the things we might be worried about are; friends and family, how we look, money problems, relationships, sexuality and health.

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Factors that have a huge impact on how we feel

  • Having a long-term physical illness
  • Having a parent who has had mental health problems, problems with alcohol or has been in trouble with the law
  • Experiencing the death of someone close to them (especially by suicide)
  • Parents who have separated or divorced (loss)
  • Been bullied or physically or sexually abused
  • Living in severe poverty or being homeless
  • Experience discrimination: due to race, sexuality or disability
  • A young carer
  • Having problems with school or exclusions
  • Experience of living in care
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Things that improve how we feel

  • Accepting who we are and recognising our strengths
  • Being in good health, having a balanced diet and getting regular exercise
  • Being able to have fun, indoors and outdoors
  • Being part of a family, that gets along (most of the time)
  • Going to a school /college that cares about its students
  • Taking part in local activities or groups
  • Feeling loved, trusted, valued and safe
  • Having opportunities to learn & succeed
  • Having aspirations and goals for the future
  • Feeling valued
Starting difficult conversations

Starting difficult conversations

If you can, be clear and ask for help straight out or tell someone how you are feeling, that always works best, but it isn’t always easy. Here are a few ideas to help start the conversation…there’s no right or wrong way, give it a go!

  • I don’t know how to deal with my feelings
  • I want to tell you something but don’t know how to start
  • I need some advice on something. Can you help me?
  • How do I cope in the future?
  • I’m really struggling at the moment, I need help

 

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And relax…

If you’re feeling hurt and stressed and anxious by what has been happening, try some of these muscle exercises to help you relax

  • Hands – clench one hand tightly for a few seconds as you breathe in. You should feel your forearm muscles tense; then relax as you breathe out. Repeat with the other hand.
  • Arms – bend an elbow and tense all the muscles in the arm for a few seconds as you breathe in; then relax as you breathe out. Repeat the same with the other arm.
  • Shoulders – raise your shoulders as high as you can as you breathe in; then relax as you breathe out.
  • Neck – press your head back as hard as is comfortable and roll it slowly from side to side; then relax.

 

Manage Your Feelings Resources for 16-19 year olds

GIPSIL - CHP

GIPSIL – CHP

Community, Health & Prevention (CHP) is a service committed to promoting well-being and resilience by supporting individuals and families through tailored interventions and preventive measures. With a focus on health, community connection, and early intervention, CHP works to empower people to improve their quality of life and overcome challenges
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Growing Healthy

Speak to your school nurse or call them Monday to Friday, 9am to 5pm, on 0300 373 0944.
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Youth Hub – Wakefield Families Together

The website hosts information from across the Wakefield Districts Youth Services.
Inspiring Futures Drug and Alcohol Service

Inspiring Futures Drug and Alcohol Service

We support young people and their families to deal with the challenges they face around drugs, alcohol & surrounding issues.  If you have questions about substances or feel that your drug or alcohol use might be becoming a problem, free support is available.
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Wakefield Discovery College

Provides free courses and workshops that can help anyone aged 16-25 with their wellbeing and recovery journey.
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Better Health Every Mind Matters

Mental health and self-care for young people.
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Connexions

For online support about education, work and carers.
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Housing For Vulnerable Adults

A Council service for people who are homeless, threatened with homelessness or in housing need.
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Turning Point Therapies

Provide support for anyone over 16 living in Wakefield District.
Here For You

Here For You

Opening Hours: 6pm to Midnight every day of the year for support. People can refer online 24/7 and our local teams will contact people back within 24 hours:
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SHOUT

The UK's first 24/7 text service, free on all major mobile networks, for anyone in crisis anytime, anywhere. It's a place to go if you're struggling to cope.
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Samaritans

Telephone 116 123
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Social Care Direct

Telephone number 0345 850 3503
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Change 4 Life

A programme to help your family be healthier and happier by eating well and moving more.
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Night OWLS

Confidential support line for children, young people, and parents/ carers. Available 8pm–8am every day. Freephone 0800 1488 244 Text: 07984 392700
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Childline

Get help and advice about a wide range of issues, call us on 0800 1111, talk to a counsellor online, send Childline an email or post on the message boards.
Compass RISE (Wakefield)

Compass RISE (Wakefield)

Helps children, young people and families facing low mood, friendship problems, bullying, online bullying or feeling angry, lonely or sad before things get worse. Text BUZZ to 85258 for text messaging support, call 01924 665 093 or send off a referral form